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Why Life Coaching Can Help You!

We’ve all been there, including myself-that proverbial ‘Fork in the Road’ with so many options, but no clear direction. Whether it’s a career challenge, Family issue, or a project you’ve been procrastinating about, It can be very daunting-but have no fear! I can help you get on the right track back to your Dreams and Goals. It’s easier than you think and results are guaranteed, YOU can do this!

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(2) 60 Minute Sessions

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Please email me and take the initiative today…..identityguyiam@gmail.com

‘THE JOSEPH JOURNEY’ (From the Pit to the Palace) Male Sexual Assault Victims

This BLOG is for those Men and young males who have been Sexually Assaulted by other Men, Women, and other youths. This is a very ‘hushed’ topic and has kept many of us from receiving the much needed help to cope with this type of Trauma. It has serious psychological and emotional repercussions that can follow one throughout his lifetime, leaving a path of dysfunction, broken relationships, and mental disease.

It is such taboo to talk about, that it can even garner ridicule amongst peers, especially in the African American culture; it can be viewed as a sort of ‘right of passage’ to be molested or raped by a Woman or young female. A young man is taught that it is a great thing for an older woman or female to ‘take’ your innocence or virginity; it is something to be proud of instead of seeing it as the violation it really is of that young man’s holy Temple of God. If you complain in any way, you can be ostracized and labeled in the community or Family. As a result, many men suffer silently and often turn to drugs, alcohol, sexual promiscuity, domestic abuse, same sex relationships, bisexuality, and even trans-genderism to deal with the mental trauma.

This must stop and be addressed! It has become pandemic-

Throughout my many years of Counseling clients, Case Studies, Research, Experience, and Observation, I’ve learned that this is a spiritual problem, and no amount of medication can cure its symptoms. Only through Godly Counsel, trusting the Word of God, and Fasting and Prayer can one be healed from these types of Generational Curses.

This Blog was created as a place to come and experience the camaraderie in sharing, starting, or assisting in the healing process for these Men only. It is unique in that it is only for Men and young Men. It is NOT a community to prey on victims, and is monitored fiercely! We ask that privacy be respected, and no personal information be shared about involved individuals. If legal advice is sought or needed, steps will be taken to adhere to local and national laws. What the devil meant for our harm, God turns it around for our good!

“Confessions of a ‘Spiritual’ Gold Digger”

A ‘Gold Digger’ is someone who wants you for what you have, or for what you can do for them; they really have no interest in what you want! I have come to the realization that I have been a trifling Gold Digger in my pursuit of God. I had to repent, because in my trying to avoid going to Hell, gain eternal life, have my name written in the ‘Lamb’s Book of Life’,  receive the ‘Promises of God’ as an heir of Abraham thriving in the Kingdom, I failed to pursue the heart of the one who was making all of these wonderful things possible-God. I failed to seek His face, instead of what He had in his hands; I failed to seek his will and desire for me in His Kingdom here on the Earth. I now understand that I wanted Jesus to be my Savior, but not my Lord; I wanted to be King on my own throne, reigning with him but having my own agenda. Jesus is the King, and I must love what He loves, and hate what He hates; I must desire to please only Him and what He chooses for my life in His Kingdom. I thank God that He has taught me to pursue his heart, as did his servant King David in 1 Samuel 13:14; and as Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, “…not my will, but Your will be done.” I want my will to BE his will, continually  delighting myself in Him.

Studying the Word of God

I am always intrigued by the lackadaisical attitude some have toward the Holy Scriptures, which is indeed the written Word of God. Those who often pick it up and try to read it can find themselves not  only intimidated, but thoroughly confused and frustrated. Why is this? Could it be that when they attempted to read it they didn’t have the right heart toward God? Maybe they are being cynical  or downright judgmental toward its Authors or content in general. It is possible that it was presented to them in the wrong way, or even manipulated to influence them for some evil purpose. Whatever the scenario, God’s Word is just that-His Word! I have come to the conclusion over the last four decades that the only people who have a problem with the Bible, are the ones who don’t want to follow its instructions. They want to do what they want to do, and it clearly convicts them, so they choose to ignore it, or interpret it to fit their own selfish agendas. They dismiss its truths and instruction, calling it folklore, legend, or just the writings of a group of men’s fanatical imaginations. This is a dangerous thing to do, because it is much, much more than that; it is only key to their living a prosperous, victorious life while on Earth, and an even better one, after they die. In 2 Timothy 3:16, the Apostle Paul writes, ” All scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that everyone who belongs to God can be proficient, equipped for every good work.” Also, Jesus said in Matthew 4:4, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every Word that comes from the mouth of God.” It is imperative that we study (consume; ravish) the Word of God, so that our spirit can receive nourishment, just like our bodies do when we consume our favorite foods.

Unleash the ‘Kingdom’ in You!!

As a Certified Life Coach, I not only get to help others achieve their Life Goals, but I also experience the joy in seeing them accomplish them all! It’s almost like it was my goal too-how amazing is that? Cultivating the dormant genius and talent that lays inside, brings a mutual joy, and everyone benefits. Why not write that book? Start that Business? Get that Promotion? Pray and Meditate more consistently? You can do it- the only thing stopping you, is you!

In pursuing my dreams and goals, I went through one of the most difficult times of my life, learning that my ‘Wealth’ was not in my material possessions, but in spirit and health. I had not sought the Kingdom of God ‘first’, as Jesus commanded in Matthew 6:33. and therefore lost houses, luxury cars, investments, good Credit and good health. How many of us are guilty of this? I am thankful to be back on the right track now, seeking the Kingdom of God first, and His righteousness; I only want what HE wants, and my agenda is HIS agenda for me-everything else I need will come to me automatically. I am Abraham’s seed, but this takes on a Spiritual and Natural narrative; there must be a healthy ‘Balance’. I must get off of my personal Throne, and let Jesus reign on it. No more pursuing that secret ‘glory’ that we all want subconsciously, and are not willing to admit to. This is where Satan deceives so many, even those working in Ministry. He’s not worried about you being a threat to his kingdom, because he has enticed you to want self-worship as he did before he was banished from Heaven as the Worship Leader. Yes, it was a very difficult lesson, but now my priorities are in order; I’m not where I want to be, but I am on my way, and am grateful that I am no longer seeking ‘things’ before I seek the Kingdom!

I Know Jesus as ‘Jehovah Rapha’ (My Healer) Part II

Knowing my Spiritual Identity in Christ continually teaches me that I have been given ‘Authority’ through the Holy Ghost (Luke 10:19), and Satan and his Demons have no power over me as long as I walk in OBEDIENCE. When I was 16 years old, I worked at a Scrap Steel Mill, and was almost killed when a co-worker who was a Mechanic, turned on the machine while I was inside cleaning it.  It was discovered that he suffered from Mental Illness, and the steel blades that caught my legs would have cut me to pieces if it had not been for God allowing them to stop turning. This was an extremely horrifying experience for me, yet I knew I was going to get out of it okay somehow.  While I was caught in the machine, I had to coach my Uncle and other co-workers on how to turn the machine on, and off again to free my legs, since I also knew how to operate it. Other episodes where the enemy attacked the assignment on my life, involved me contracting Hepatitis, a Double Hernia, Prostate and Liver Cancer (where the Lord miraculously healed me without Chemotherapy), and Sickle Cell Trait. He later revealed to me that He allowed me to experience these illnesses that, I may stand proxy for a loved one or close friend, who would have died had they been stricken with the same illness. Now, I am in the best shape that I have ever been in, and it’s all because of God’s mercy toward me. I am thankful that He decides to use me the way that He does, and am not worthy of His love…..

I know Jesus as ‘Jehovah Rapha’ (My Healer) Part I

The Lord recently revealed to me as I was pondering some of the difficult things He has brought me through during my life, that the enemy, Satan, has actually been trying to kill me all of my life! However, my Angels have been there on their duty, protecting and guiding me even when I wasn’t always doing what was right (I’m sure you can relate). It started on the day I was born in my Dad’s Best Friend’s car, in front of Chicago’s Cook County Hospital on a  rainy September 13th in the 60’s. My Mom was a teenage Mother, so she was strong and healthy, coming from a very strong stock of smart, strong, and very attractive Women. She delivered me with no problems, considering the circumstances. She recently divulged to me that immediately after she delivered me, they rushed us into a small waiting room where she and I were the only two there; we were ‘quarantined’! I guess my being born in that car could present a health hazard to the other little ‘crumb snatchers’ in the Nursery. God’s mercy prevailed, and I survived with no problems whatsoever. A little over 3 years later, I was in one of my Aunt’s Apartments in the newly built Projects on the South Side not too far from Cottage Grove Ave., and noticed some of the Paint on the wall peeling off; it was a blueish-gray color (strange that I can remember that). I used to always get my hand spanked for putting things in my mouth, and knew I wasn’t supposed to do so, but I tasted the paint. It actually had a ‘sweet’ taste to my surprise, and that’s the last thing I remember about the incident. I later was told when I was a Teenager that on that day, they came into the room where I was, and found me unconscious on the floor. They were horrified, and rushed my limp little body to the Hospital, barely breathing. My stomach was pumped and the Doctors told my Mom that I would probably end up with Brain damage, because other children had been eating this new “Led-based Paint”, and died. It was later stripped from the Buildings and banned from being used. But God!!! He stepped in again and spared my life with no damage to my Brain’s Central Nervous System. A few years later, I remember being in my bedroom trying to go to sleep, but was wide awake. It was time for bed, and we had to get up for School in the morning; suddenly though, I felt some invisible hands on my mouth, and others holding my hands down next to my side. I was terrified, but couldn’t utter a peep. I could hear my Parents down the Hallway talking in their Bedroom, and even my Brother in his room making noise while he was supposed to be sleeping as well, thinking Mom was going to give him a whipping for not being in bed.

I looked over on the wall and saw two or three Gargoyle looking creatures sitting on the wall! I began to moan and breathe hard, but could do nothing but think and move my eyes back and forth. After a few moments, they suddenly released me and fled; I ran to my Parent’s Bedroom, and told them what just happened. My Dad mocked me, but my Mom listened and could plainly see that I was horrified. At my Dad’s strong objection, they let me sleep at the foot of their Bed that night. That wasn’t the last time Demons came to my Bed and sat on it, trying to intimidate and strike fear in me again. I believe many who have weak Hearts may have suffered an Attack as the result of Demons visiting them. After I received Jesus as my Savior, began to live by His commands and learn of my Spiritual Identity in Him, I understood that “He gave me Authority over all Demons, (Serpents and Scorpions) and the power of the enemy (Satan)…..” (Luke 10:9). The next time they came in my 20’s, I commanded them to leave, in the Name of Jesus, and they immediately fled! They even had the audacity to come again as recently as two years ago! I guess they are waiting to catch me with my guard down- I’m just going to keep cutting them up with my ‘Sword'(The Word of God) again! We all have been given this Authority, but only through faith in God’s Son Jesus, sacrificing His life on the Cross. Through obedience and living holy lifestyles, we can walk in His Spiritual Identity ordained for us.