Why Life Coaching Can Help You…

We’ve all been there (including myself), that proverbial ‘Fork in the Road’ with so many options, but no clear direction. Whether it’s a career challenge, Family/Marital issue, or a project you’ve been procrastinating about, It can be very daunting-but have no fear! I can help you get back on the right track to your Dreams and Goals. It’s easier than you think and you will be pleased with your results-let Coach Sid assist you….


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Only Give Your Heart to Jesus!

I don’t know why God only recently allowed me to accept and understand this vital principle and key information about giving only Him my ‘Heart’, and everyone else my ‘Love’. Like many others, I’ve spent many years searching for love and satisfaction in all the wrong places with all the wrong people; desiring intimacy and closeness that would be returned. Maybe it is because I am now at a place in my life where I am more settled, and have a more ‘teachable’ spirit; learning to listen more, and speak less! Even when I know that I am right and have the correct information, I relinquish ‘my right to be right’. I choose to seek the Kingdom of God first now, and I am satisfied with Jesus alone!!! Halleluyah!!

With that being said, I digress.

A great man of God, my Pastor, Apostle Demetrius Robinson, recently caused me to have a spiritual paradigm shift, when he stated, “We must only give Jesus our hearts, and give everyone else our love.” How profound a statement!! He referenced Proverbs 3: 5-6, telling us to “Trust in the Lord with all of your heart, and lean not to your own understanding: but in all of your ways acknowledge Him, and he will direct your path.” He also added Proverbs 4:23, “Keep (guard) your heart with all diligence, for out of it flows the issues of life.” By ‘guarding’ our heart, (which is actually a spiritual gate to our very mind and spirit), we protect it by giving it only to Jesus. It is not the physical organ in our chest that pumps the blood throughout our bodies, but a spiritual place within, where the Holy Ghost operates through us. He is the only one who loves us with ‘agape’, unconditional love; His love protects our innermost thoughts and intents, preserving our spirits and sanity, while conforming us into the image of Jesus Christ. This responsibility is impossible for another person, and it is not fair to put this expectation on them; they are not equipped to handle the intense emotional understanding that the heart requires. Only after we give Jesus our heart, are we able to share love with the agape, the way He intends for us to. Husbands, Wives, Parents, and Children have been erroneously put into this position knowingly and unknowingly, only to let the person down eventually no matter how much they loved them. It is only when we allow The Fruit of the Spirit to manifest in us that we will love properly and unselfishly: Love, Joy, Peace, Longsuffering, Gentleness, Goodness, Faith, Meekness, and Temperance, gives us this ability. (Galatians 5:22; Colossians 3:12-14))

You now understand why so many of us experienced heart break after heart break throughout our lives; we were expecting others to give us only what Jesus could. Out of ignorance and what we learned in our families and environments, we trusted them with our most prized possessions, our hearts, and our bodies. These were only meant to be dedicated to the Father, with our bodies only to be shared with our spouses. My, how society has tarnished that order!! Of course we were wounded in the process, and many of us sustained emotional and mental scars that still affect us today. It is time to repent, ask for forgiveness, and posture our hearts back to the Father where they belong. The Father is ready to heal us with His Holy Ghost, allowing the healing ‘Balm of Gilead‘, (Jesus) to permeate our very being. Now, we must let a love ‘infection’ spread to others, because this holy ‘pandemic’ needs no cure!!

The Kingdom of God Within You

In the Gospel according to Luke, we see in chapter 17: 20-21 that the Pharisees ask Jesus when the Kingdom of God should come, but He told them that it was ‘within them’. It was not observable with the naked eye, but is spiritual. The ultimate, and first System of Government is the Kingdom of Heaven; it is where Yahweh, our Father (God) dwells. His Throne Room is there and Yahusha, (Jesus) His Son, and Ruach HaKodesh, His Holy Spirit, all dwell with Him as One (Elohim). The Kingdom of God however, is the very character and culture of the Kingdom of Heaven, but established in a physical location, Earth. We basically live in a Colony of Heaven, to put it bluntly. The Holy Spirit is the Governor of the Kingdom, so He has to be present in order for righteousness, peace, and joy to manifest in this government of God. (Romans 14:17). The problem is this: Adam was the original Ruler of earth (Genesis 1:26), but committed ‘Treason’ by disobeying God, which then turned that rulership over to Satan. This caused the Holy Spirit not to dwell inside of Adam anymore, so he lost the position of Authority and fellowship he had with the Father. The Relationship was severed, so now enter the Son, Yahusha, the ‘Lamb’ of God, over 3.000 years later to destroy the works of the Devil (1 John3:8). He came to restore that Relationship and Authority by shedding His own personal Blood as the ultimate and final sacrifice for mankind, no more animals would have to die for man’s sins. Now after over 2,000 more years, Satan knows his time is running out and is pulling out all of his weaponry before Jesus returns. He has been deceiving mankind every since he obtained the authority and dominion in the earth from Adam, and his false gods and corrupt systems of government in the world is coming to a head. Even now in America, we see the evil Principalities and demonic powers at work in the high places of influence, spreading fear, greed, division, and hate. Yahweh will allow the earth to groan in birth pangs, but will not allow mankind to destroy it; He will do it in His own sovereign time in order to create a new Heaven and a new Earth in the Millennium (Isaiah 66:22; 2 Peter 3:10-13). So, we who are in the Kingdom of God while on earth, will escape the evil catastrophes as long as we are in obedience to His Word. We now have the Holy Ghost dwelling in us to teach, empower, and guide as we learn how to rule as our forefather was intended to. Those who reject Jesus as the King of His Kingdom, will suffer unnecessarily and live beneath their true spiritual heritage while on earth. There are sad eternal consequences for serving false gods, and the punishment will result in being thrown into the Lake of Fire with the Devil and his angels-forever. Please don’t be deceived my Brother and my Sister, Yahushua (Jesus) is the King of kings, and there is no other way to the Father but by Him (John 14:6).

Christ’s Ultimate Exchange

When God sent Jesus to die for us, thereby redeeming us to the Father, He basically ‘Exchanged’ our Sinful Identity for His Holy Identity. It is just that simple! While we yet walk on Earth, we can simultaneously “…sit in Heavenly places with Him,’ (Ephesians 2:6), and also be at one with Him, “…as He is, so are we in this world” (1 John 4:17). This is all done through being ‘filled’ with the Holy Ghost. God demonstrates this principle in Isaiah 61:3 “….to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness…” He always has something better for us if we would just ‘receive’ it. Yet, Satan continually lies to Believers making them think that it is not enough. Many still unconsciously try to ‘work’ for their salvation after Christ has already done all of the work on the Cross; He then can live out this victory in our yielded ‘temples’ on a daily basis, through the power of the Holy Ghost. Philippians 4:13 has literally come alive in my spirit, “I can do ALL things through Christ, who strengthens me.” Why is it then that so many Believers are living in defeat? ? The answer is that they don’t let the Lord fight for us when we are faced with trials and tribulations; we must simply admit that we are not able to handle the situation, and we need Him to handle it for us. James 4:7 tells us to ” Submit yourselves to God. Resist the Devil and he will flee..” This way, the Devil has to deal with Jesus now, and not our weakness! He is always trying to get us to rely on our own personal will and strength when he temps us, because he knows we will fail every time-just like he did when he was the Anointed Cherub in Heaven. It was this selfish pride that got him kicked out of the Kingdom of Heaven!

Daily Declarations

It is very important to use your God-given gift of the authoritative power of your WORDS, effectively. Time and Words are the only two things that cannot be reclaimed or retracted once they are used. In Proverbs 18:21, King Solomon wrote, “The power of death and life are in the tongue, they that live by them shall eat of the fruit they bear.” Basically, it means, what you say will create your reality and existence; you are either building up or tearing down. So, it behooves us to say what God has said in His Word about us and whatever life presents to us-JESUS is that literal Word who was made flesh and walked the Earth (John 1:14). I have several Daily Declarations that I use on a daily basis along with my Prayers, I quote them before I go to bed, when I awake, and throughout the day when I can; they are based on the Word of God. Job 22:10 states, “You shall declare a thing, and it shall be established….” Here is one of my favorites…


 I declare the right and authority that the Blood of Jesus has given me by His dying on the cross and making me God’s righteousness; I accept its authority, and am confident in its power. My sins are forever forgiven and there is no more condemnation in me! I walk in total and complete deliverance through the Holy Ghost, and am freed from the Law. He has made me to sit in heavenly places with Him as a King and Priest to God, and a fellow joint-heir. His grace and mercy has done this complete work in me, and I use the authority given me to take dominion on the Earth for the Kingdom of God. Every mountain in my life is removed and cast into the sea, in the name of Jesus!! I walk in the spirit, cooperating with the Holy Ghost; by putting on the whole armor of God, I fulfill my daily marching orders and life assignments, manifesting every covenant and soul connection destined for me. I receive my prosperity and provisional blessings afforded me through being Abraham’s seed; the favor of God rests on me daily with His benefits overtaking me. The windows of Heaven are opened to me and I partake in the Great Favor of God upon my life. Everyone I come in contact with today will experience the Kingdom of God, for it is within me and Holy Ghost illuminates through me; I yield to His direction and am focused on His guidance and wisdom. I conduct business in the Marketplace for the Kingdom of God and take territory as the Spirit leads me; I forgive all who have sinned against me and pray that they forgive me if I have done them wrong in any way. I also release the angels of God to minister, protect, and bring me the provisions I need to fulfill my daily orders for the Kingdom. The Lord is with me, and the Devil and his kingdom are under my feet because I am seated with Jesus; he shall soon have his place in the Lake of Fire! I renounce, revoke and rebuke any generational or individual curses in my life, known and unknown, rendering them powerless and non-effective under the Blood of Jesus; they will fall to the ground fruitless and ineffective. The Spirit of the Lord is upon me to cast out demons in Jesus’ name, to lay hands on the sick, loose the bands of wickedness and set the captives free. I have divers gifts of healing in my hands, and the gifts of faith and tongues manifest in my Ministry. Signs and miracles follow me, and I fiercely protect my anointing. God is glorified through my actions and desires; my heart is fixed and I am not distracted by the things of the world, nor do I put them before Him. I love what He loves, and I hate what He hates; I am a slave to His majesty and serve my fellow man in humility by esteeming others higher than myself. I bless my body and every cell, organ, muscle, bone, system and part of His temple, and present it a living sacrifice to God. No disease, virus, plague, or sickness can dwell in my flesh, and cannot come nigh me, for I dwell in the presence of the Most High God. I declare that the conditions on earth are the same as the conditions in Heaven for my life, and as He is, so am I in this present world. My ears are attentive and my eyes fixed on the Holy Ghost as He reveals the will of the Father to me in with my daily bread, and loaded benefits. God is for me, and is more than the world against me; nothing can separate me from His love. I am careful not to grieve the Holy Ghost, and walk in the Spirit daily through His presence. I continually confess the Lordship of Jesus Christ; that He has come to Earth in the flesh and is reigning as King in His Kingdom. My Financial Deliverer helps me, and men give unto my bosom daily; I am debt free, and a good steward over all that the Father has put into my hands.

‘THE JOSEPH JOURNEY’ (From the Pit to the Palace) Male Sexual Assault Victims

This BLOG is for those Men and young males who have been Sexually Assaulted by other Men, Women, and other youths. This is a very ‘hushed’ topic and has kept many of us from receiving the much needed help to cope with this type of Trauma. It has serious psychological and emotional repercussions that can follow one throughout his lifetime, leaving a path of dysfunction, broken relationships, and mental disease.

It is such taboo to talk about, that it can even garner ridicule amongst peers, especially in the African American culture; it can be viewed as a sort of ‘right of passage’ to be molested or raped by a Woman or young female. A young man is taught that it is a great thing for an older woman or female to ‘take’ your innocence or virginity; it is something to be proud of instead of seeing it as the violation it really is of that young man’s holy Temple of God. If you complain in any way, you can be ostracized and labeled in the community or Family. As a result, many men suffer silently and often turn to drugs, alcohol, sexual promiscuity, domestic abuse, same sex relationships, bisexuality, and even trans-genderism to deal with the mental trauma.

This has to be addressed and help made available…

Throughout my many years of Counseling clients, Case Studies, Research, Experience, and Observation, I’ve learned that this is a spiritual problem, and no amount of medication can cure its symptoms-just offer temporary relief. Only through Godly Counsel, trusting the Word of God, and Fasting and Prayer can one be healed from these types of Generational Curses.

This Blog was created as a place to come and experience the camaraderie in sharing, starting, or assisting in the healing process for these Men only. It is unique in that it is only for Men and young Men. It is NOT a community to prey on victims, and is monitored fiercely! We ask that privacy be respected, and no personal information be shared about involved individuals. If legal advice is sought or needed, steps will be taken to adhere to local and national laws. What the devil meant for our harm, God turns it around for our good!

“Confessions of a ‘Spiritual’ Gold Digger”

A ‘Gold Digger’ is someone who wants you for what you have, or for what you can do for them; they really have no interest in what you want! I have come to the realization that I have been a trifling Gold Digger in my pursuit of God. I had to repent, because in my trying to avoid going to Hell, gain eternal life, have my name written in the ‘Lamb’s Book of Life’,  receive the ‘Promises of God’ as an heir of Abraham thriving in the Kingdom, I failed to pursue the heart of the one who was making all of these wonderful things possible-God. I failed to seek His face, instead of what He had in his hands; I failed to seek his will and desire for me in His Kingdom here on the Earth. I now understand that I wanted Jesus to be my Savior, but not my Lord; I wanted to be King on my own throne, reigning with him but having my own agenda. Jesus is the King, and I must love what He loves, and hate what He hates; I must desire to please only Him and what He chooses for my life in His Kingdom. I thank God that He has taught me to pursue his heart, as did his servant King David in 1 Samuel 13:14; and as Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, “…not my will, but Your will be done.” I want my will to BE his will, continually  delighting myself in Him.

Studying the Word of God

I am always intrigued by the lackadaisical attitude some have toward the Holy Scriptures, which is indeed the written Word of God. Those who often pick it up and try to read it can find themselves not  only intimidated, but thoroughly confused and frustrated. Why is this? Could it be that when they attempted to read it they didn’t have the right heart toward God? Maybe they are being cynical  or downright judgmental toward its Authors or content in general. It is possible that it was presented to them in the wrong way, or even manipulated to influence them for some evil purpose. Whatever the scenario, God’s Word is just that-His Word! I have come to the conclusion over the last four decades that the only people who have a problem with the Bible, are the ones who don’t want to follow its instructions. They want to do what they want to do, and it clearly convicts them, so they choose to ignore it, or interpret it to fit their own selfish agendas. They dismiss its truths and instruction, calling it folklore, legend, or just the writings of a group of men’s fanatical imaginations. This is a dangerous thing to do, because it is much, much more than that; it is only key to their living a prosperous, victorious life while on Earth, and an even better one, after they die. In 2 Timothy 3:16, the Apostle Paul writes, ” All scripture is inspired by God and is useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, so that everyone who belongs to God can be proficient, equipped for every good work.” Also, Jesus said in Matthew 4:4, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every Word that comes from the mouth of God.” It is imperative that we study (consume; ravish) the Word of God, so that our spirit can receive nourishment, just like our bodies do when we consume our favorite foods.

Unleash the ‘Kingdom’ in You!!

As a Certified Life Coach, I not only get to help others achieve their Life Goals, but I also experience the joy in seeing them accomplish them all! It’s almost like it was my goal too-how amazing is that? Cultivating the dormant genius and talent that lays inside, brings a mutual joy, and everyone benefits. Why not write that book? Start that Business? Get that Promotion? Pray and Meditate more consistently? You can do it- the only thing stopping you, is you!

In pursuing my dreams and goals, I went through one of the most difficult times of my life, learning that my ‘Wealth’ was not in my material possessions, but in spirit and health. I had not sought the Kingdom of God ‘first’, as Jesus commanded in Matthew 6:33. and therefore lost houses, luxury cars, investments, good Credit and good health. How many of us are guilty of this? I am thankful to be back on the right track now, seeking the Kingdom of God first, and His righteousness; I only want what HE wants, and my agenda is HIS agenda for me-everything else I need will come to me automatically. I am Abraham’s seed, but this takes on a Spiritual and Natural narrative; there must be a healthy ‘Balance’. I must get off of my personal Throne, and let Jesus reign on it. No more pursuing that secret ‘glory’ that we all want subconsciously, and are not willing to admit to. This is where Satan deceives so many, even those working in Ministry. He’s not worried about you being a threat to his kingdom, because he has enticed you to want self-worship as he did before he was banished from Heaven as the Worship Leader. Yes, it was a very difficult lesson, but now my priorities are in order; I’m not where I want to be, but I am on my way, and am grateful that I am no longer seeking ‘things’ before I seek the Kingdom!

I Know Jesus as ‘Jehovah Rapha’ (My Healer) Part II

Knowing my Spiritual Identity in Christ continually teaches me that I have been given ‘Authority’ through the Holy Ghost (Luke 10:19), and Satan and his Demons have no power over me as long as I walk in OBEDIENCE. When I was 16 years old, I worked at a Scrap Steel Mill, and was almost killed when a co-worker who was a Mechanic, turned on the machine while I was inside cleaning it.  It was discovered that he suffered from Mental Illness, and the steel blades that caught my legs would have cut me to pieces if it had not been for God allowing them to stop turning. This was an extremely horrifying experience for me, yet I knew I was going to get out of it okay somehow.  While I was caught in the machine, I had to coach my Uncle and other co-workers on how to turn the machine on, and off again to free my legs, since I also knew how to operate it. Other episodes where the enemy attacked the assignment on my life, involved me contracting Hepatitis, a Double Hernia, Prostate and Liver Cancer (where the Lord miraculously healed me without Chemotherapy), and Sickle Cell Trait. He later revealed to me that He allowed me to experience these illnesses that, I may stand proxy for a loved one or close friend, who would have died had they been stricken with the same illness. Now, I am in the best shape that I have ever been in, and it’s all because of God’s mercy toward me. I am thankful that He decides to use me the way that He does, and am not worthy of His love…..